Community: Education

I have taken on the role of leading (with another fellow) the “Adult Learning Committee” as it is named.

One of the questions that has been asked is “why is it when the temple puts on all these cool educational opportunities does the same 30 people always show up? Why is it that no one else comes?”

This is an interesting question about community. When you have a large group of people that affiliate with a synagogue or other organization, how do get people to come? There are plenty of reasons and excuses of why people do not take on these educational opportunities. However, this little committee really cannot answer the question of what it is that the community is looking for?

What if they stopped providing these educational programs would people notice? We do not know.

So what I have asked the people on the committee to do is go out and talk to five people. I want them to start with finding out what the persons relationship to Judaism is. I want to where are people coming from? What is the context of their lives?

From here we will start mapping out what people are interested in. What I am positing is that this process of listening will help define what kind of things we should be offering to bring more people in? How? I think the future will emerge from these conversations and we can look backwards at today and say “what do we need to do to move us toward where people want us to be?”

I think we should be able to get every adult involved in a learning opportunity over the year. My guess is that is around 1000 people.

Community: Different Time and Place

If the synagogue was the center of community life for so long and the barriers to leaving that are now gone, how do we keep community?

Jewish life has always been defined by community. Many rituals require at least 10 Jews (minyan) to make it legit. While you live close or have enough people in an area who are available on call a minyan is possible. What do we do going forward if people do not live near or are not available at the right time?

Reform Judaism threw many of the traditions out that required a minyan. As long as the synagogue was there and there was a place for you to go to pray or to say Kaddish that was good enough. Since it is harder to get people together in one place at one time should we just throw all the communal obligations out? It would be easier. Would it provide the spiritual life needed?

Given this new world there needs to be a multiplicity of approaches to meet the different needs of the community. Activities online that help one study or focus introspectively on one’s own behavior can go along way to help individuals that are not close or do not have time to go to temple. Perhaps even individually led prayer sessions online. Recorded prayers and ninguns for further spiritual connection. Much of this could be facilitated through communities online. Rabbi Uzi from CA teaches courses through teleconference. Alan Morinis leads mussar discussions via yahoo groups, conferences, and classes. Each of these create distributed asynchronous communities. Should any of these be incorporated into temple life? Should temples be locating these as other avenues of Jewish community building?

All the tools that have removed the friction have created a quandary for traditional synagogues. Does the synagogue march forward with the dedicated small group that comes to temple and attends the functions? Do they offer alternatives for those who do come? Given these asynchronous lives temples need to focus on multiple avenues and encourage more small groups functioning within the community as a whole.

Since people can find interesting things through many alternate means the synagogue should be looking to make ritual and spiritual connection more meaningful and more intense. Like going to a spa or a retreat, people should come to the temple for a respite. This should not be one program created to fit everyone but focused times around people’s spiritual needs. How about intense sessions of prayer as meditation? Chanting? Silence?  Should these even go on in the temple?

For Shabbat, why not focus on an exotic experience with music, food and drinks. Have this in a home, restaurant, or the temple. People can recline and be comfortable. Have an experience where people hang out, talk and challenge themselves. Make it something remarkable, something people want to talk about.

Now that there is less of reason to come to temple what do we do? How do we build community?

When I came out of Egypt

In every
generation, each of us must see ourselves as if we, ourselves, came out of
Egypt , as it is written: And
you shall tell your child on that day saying, This is what God did for me, when
I came out of
Egypt . (Exodus 13:8 )

What are you? Are you a Jew? What is your story? What do you
tell your children? Do you tell the story of coming out of Egypt? Do you tell it as your story?

Describing our challenges and proudest moments help define a picture of who we
are. This helps frame and set a context for our story. We tell our story of a
great people to keep our history alive. Stories of our families and our people
are important for children to learn about who they are and to provide an
identity and a connection to their heritage.

Our people have a long and brilliant history of underdogs struggling and
overcoming. Over the years we have lived under many difficult regimes then
succeeded beyond the expectations of the nations we embraced.

Under slavery and horrible conditions of an oppressive kingdom in Egypt we
struggled. We left Egypt and
made our way to the land
of Israel and built a
great nation. Then the story repeats itself in history. In every generation we
encounter a struggle against rulers. And in every generation we succeed and
change the world. Within the ups and downs, each year we connect our children with the story of coming out of Egypt.

This is our history. Interestingly, G-d knew this would be valuable to sustain
and connect this group of people we call Jews. We are given the mitzvh “And
you shall tell your child on that day saying, This is what God did for me, when
I came out of
Egypt .

Our tradition helps define regular intervals and the context to tell the story.
We created a Haggadah and seder so that every year at Passover we tell our
story.

Our history, traditions and beliefs help sustain
and empower us as a community. G-d did this — brought us out of Egypt
to accept the Torah, to teach it to our children and to remain a
special community in the light of G-d. Teach this to your children as a
personal journey and your children will identify and be proud to be
Jews.

This Passover is your opportunity to tell your children about the family
struggles and family triumphs. You have an opportunity to do a mitzvah and
include the story of Exodus this Passover holiday.

Happy Pesach and good feasting.

Book List

I have posted a list of excellent books on Jewish spirituality and practice. Each of these encourage a better understanding of Judaism and with a little effort an advancement in your spirtual practice.

Jewish Wisdom: Ethical, Spiritual, and Historical Lessons
The Book of Jewish Values: A Day-By-Day Guide to Ethical Living
A Code of Jewish Ethics: Volume 1: You Shall Be Holy
Words That Hurt, Words That Heal
by Rabbi Joseph Telushkin

Jewish with Feeling: A Guide to Meaningful Jewish Practice
by Rabbi Zalman Schachter-Shalomi

Miraculous Living: A Guided Journey
by Rabbi Shoni Labowitz

These Are the Words: A Vocabulary of Jewish Spiritual Life
by Arthur Green

Godwrestling, Round 2: Ancient Wisdom, Future Paths
by Rabbi Arthur Waskow

Perfect is the Enemy of Good

Early in my career I worked for a boutique consulting organization.  Most of my colleagues were overacheivers. Many were perfectionist. Many of those could not move forward until they had they had everything down pat. This may be fine if you have the answers or all the time in the world. It isn’t fine if you just need to start.

One of the leaders of the company stood up at our Friday company meeting and tried to urge a bias for action. He explained that he understood the need to be able to do everything before moving forward however, he pointed out, the world has changed and just doing something is more beneficial. As he said “Perfect is the Enemy of Good.”

I like this phrase. I have a bias toward action. I believe the only way I can learn is to try. I believe the only way to incorporate new ideas into my behavior is to take one step at a time. This is what I try to do at work as well as in my Jewish practices. As I learn something new I try it several times. I think about it. I feel it. Somethings work many do not.

Just try one practice at a time. Make it a habit. Think about it. Feel it. Remove what does not work, practice what does. This is good.