I attended a joint bar and bat mitzvah this weekend as a representative of the temple. It was a lovely experience helping the families and greeting all their guests as they entered the temple.
As everyone entered I could not believe how old 13 year olds can look. So much so that I was immediately thinking about what is going to happen and who is going to be invited to my children’s bar/bat mitzvahs in a few years.
Here is the list of things I was astonished at with these kids entering our sanctuary. (I feel like such an old man but on my defense I have always been quite the square.)
- Skirts? Why are parents thinking that it is OK for their 13-year-old to enter a holy sanctuary with skirts that would be the appropriate length if they were a foot and a half shorter?
- Shoulders? It is fall and they are entering in straps a half-inch wide. Where is the sweater?
- Boys? Almost all were wearing suit jackets. Suit jackets. You cannot tell me that some of those boys wanted to wear something inappropriate and they were turned around. Why not the girls?
- Up and down? Why are they up and down in the services? If you are not going to stay and be part of your friends service, please do not come. Do not go in the hall and make a bunch of noise. Do not disappear and do in appropriate things.
- Hugging? Since when did a casual greeting hug become a whole body hug in the hall way? Is it required for 13-year-old boys to be wrapping their legs around the girls as they hug? This again is occurring with all the noise in the hallway.
Do the parents care? Do they have a clue what is going on?
What do I do?
What do you think?